I am 27 years old and my wife is 25. we have already get married for almost 3 years. First time I met her in the library. She is cute, calm, and intelligent. I am truly in love with her and 6 months after that, we got married.
At early year, I work as Marketing in a well-known company and she works as kindergarten teacher. We have a 1 year daughter. Life goes so meaningful at that time.
On the 2nd second year, we dont feel the same anymore. In fact, I do try to arise topics.
I talk about marketing, my plans, my strategy, but she seem put no interests. then, she started to talk about the naughty kid who tried to steal her pencils in the kindergarten. Dont you realized how boring it is?
Even She becomes not calm anymore. Everytime I go home, she must fight me for something. my smelly t-shirt, my old favourite blanket , even my snoring...hmpph!
The only thing that we do together is watching TV. Indeed, we still argue about this. I prefer soccer, she prefer to watch movie. Just find the result: I get angry, then I go to sleep.
I feel depressed everytime I go home. I still love her but what should I do?
With all pressures of life, we often find marriage becomes so boring. Things become routine and no romance anymore. Everyday feels to be the same way. Problems by problems overwhelmed the marriage.
Here are Few Tips to Restore:
1. Start dating again
I mean dating with your spouse, not with others. Find yourself in the early stage of your relationship where you can both doing fun things and talking to each other.
Avoid to talk about children, work, family issues and day to day problems. Make your dates fun and enjoyable for both of you. Talk and share with your loved one..
Dont go to the movies as you cant talk to each other. Use your date to know each other again and to have fun with your spouse.
2. Plan an activity together
Find an activity that you both love. Spend more time together will grow your love. Share your feelings and your excitement to each other.
3. Changing the mindset
You marry her because she is the best one for you. Right? Keep it in mind, reflect the good points in your loved one and what will happen to you if you marry someone else..it will ease you to be grateful for your marriage and appreciate him / her more.
4. Hypnotize yourself positively
Stand in front of mirror every morning. Say to yourself: I am happy today. I have a beautiful life and nothing will take me away from this happiness. I love my life, my job, my family. My Wife loves me and so do I. We are happy. I have wonderful marriage and today will become happier than yesterday...
Marriage Value: It is normal to get bored in marriage. The point is don't ever give up. Put extra "fire" in your marriage and your marriage flame will burn again..
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