Why we can't go along anymore?

I keep on my mind how different this situation could be today..At the time we were dating, everything seems going smooth..He is kind, romantic, and gentle. He always listen to my complaints and be my shelter of life.

Now, he prefer to watch TV than talk to me. Taking the rest of his leisure time to sleep than to have dinner together..When I want to eat pizza, he prefer to eat chinese food. When I need to be listened, he prefer to going to the bar with his friends..what happened with us? why we can't go along again in this marriage?

If you have similar problems like above, try this tricks to hold your marriage safely:

1. Accepting that You and Him are different character..
Learn to understand that you are 2 different people with unique characteristics. He will
never be the same with you. Don't push it to be the same..
Rather than expliciting the differences, trying to accept the differences will ease to keep your marriage to run smoothly.

2. Never Blaming, but Introspect Yourself first
Change your angle of perspectives. It's time to learn to see in "his eyes" not "your eyes". It will
ease you to understand him more

3. Forgive and Forget
Nobody is innocent in the marriage. Once in a while, he must have some mistakes on you. The
effective recipe to keep marriage is to Forgive and Forget. It is not easy. Keep thinking that
your love to him is bigger than his mistake. Remember all the sweet things that he has done to
you..A little mistake won't be big anymore..

4. Marriage is about "We" and not "You and I" anymore.
Compromising is the most effective word to describe it. See every problem on "Our Eyes" not
"your eyes" or "my eyes". Discuss it together, communicate every problems with your spouse
and decide it together.

Marriage Value: Marriage is about taking 2 different characteristics into 1 soul. Always take "our side" than "your side" or "my side".